Your perfect wardrobe doesn’t exist

Your perfect wardrobe doesn’t exist. That is something I need to constantly remind myself of. Living in this day and age, where brands make new items available everyday (!) and social media creators constantly produce new content surrounded by those items, it’s hard to not get caught up feeling you don’t have enough – or what you do have is old and inadequate.

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I definitely struggle with those feelings from time to time. Beautifully made clothes are everywhere and the fear of missing out on getting the ‘most perfect blouse of your life’ can be ‘unbearable’. The fact is though, in the end, clothes are just clothes. (I know, groundbreaking)

It might seem odd for me who just started this blog bring up such a downer subject to the mix, but I think this is a good reminder to myself that I don’t need to aspire for perfection all the time.

Perfectionism takes a big role in my life when curating my ‘perfect wardrobe’ and I know I am not the only one who struggles with that! If ‘you are what you wear’, it is actually appalling if someone didn’t care that their wardrobe represents or not who they are in a world that your appearance is the first feature other people see.

Luckily, not everyone thinks this way and I also only believe in this up to an extend. People is what make people, not garments.

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Trends will come and go, that’s fashion in a nutshell. Although you might identify your style more with a trend at a certain time, it doesn’t mean you won’t be able to find pieces that you love later on as the trend disperses.

Being a fashion victim is one of the big reasons why people – including me – are never happy with their wardrobes. If one is always aspiring for the new and undiscovered, there is no space for appreciation in what is already acquired and known.

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Granted, I see myself with a very defined personal style and aware of what works for me, but even so I am still ever changing and incorporating new facets to my personality and therefore, wardrobe.

I reckon that acknowledging that is the secret to find peace with our wardrobes – we are fundamentally always changing, ageing, evolving. Our wardrobes reflect that.

What is to our taste today couldn’t be tackier tomorrow, this is part of the fun in the self-discovery journey.

Being imperfect with our clothes is, in fact, totally perfect.

Camilla
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Top: Ganni | Denim: & Other Stories | Necklace: Cooperative de Creation (Similar)

An ode to the cardigan

I always had a thing for buttoned clothes. Button downs, double breasted jackets, button flies, the list goes on…

I reckon everyone loves a good old cardi, that being said, I used to see cardigans as a layering piece, something to keep you warm whilst having the practicality of putting on and off, that a jumper normally lacks.

This winter, a new (to me) trend emerged that made me look at this handy piece through fresh eyes. Buttoning it all up or leaving a couple of buttons undone – but wearing it as a jumper or top, instead of wearing it open!

Extremely simple, I know, but sometimes it’s all it takes to get me excited about something. I only had a couple of oversized cardigans that were hand-me-downs from my mum’s closet, so I hit the charity shops and got myself this little red number you see here (plus a beige one I also fell in love with).

What I love about this trend is that I feel like I’m wearing a thick knitted shirt, which is all I desire to wear while it is still nippy outside!

This cardigan in particular is made of 100% cotton and I can’t wait to wear it by itself when spring arrives. I have paired it with one of my favourite pair of trousers, which is the same shade and I couldn’t resist not wearing them together.

Are there any new trends you have observed lately that made you see a piece in a whole new way?

Camilla

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Jacket: Vintage Wrangler (Similar) | Cardigan: Vintage | Trousers: Jesse Kamm | Shoes: Orla Kiely for Clarks (Old) | Bag: Vintage (Similar)

Mother

Coming from Brazil, I used to celebrate Mother’s day in May as most of other countries, but since moving to the UK, I started to celebrate Mother’s Day in March as well.

I am really lucky to have strong women in my life who love and support me unconditionally. Both my mother and mother-in-law are women I admire and would do anything in the world to keep them happy! I can be very protective over them, which is hilarious since I am only 4’11.

My two sisters are also mothers, which I’m still trying to get my head around it to be honest! It is such an incredible feeling to see them discovering new facets of themselves in motherhood while raising my niece and nephew. I am so proud of them everyday, they are my rock.

For this Mother’s Day I thought it would be nice to show you a few old pictures of my mothers as they are my number one source of inspiration, not only style-wise, but also as the amazing human beings they are.

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Hope they will give you all the #styleinspo vibes as well,

Camilla

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Starting a blog when you don’t fit in with the social conformity

It is no surprise to my family and friends that I have always loved clothes and have experimented with them for a long, long time. When I hit puberty I became extremely self-aware of how I could change the way people perceived me just by the way I dressed, but please don’t be miss-lead, I wasn’t a prom queen. I could say it was quite the opposite to be honest, I had facial piercings, stretched ears, purple hair and a very aggressive front.

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Although the main reason I was a little ‘punk’ was because of the music I was into, I have to admit that there was a part of me that was trying to compensate my insecurities through a striking image. I didn’t want people to think I was ‘weak’ or ‘delicate’ just because of my height and weight, I wanted to be seen as the fearless teenager I was whilst my body deceived that in my mind.

It was difficult growing up not conforming to what was the socially accepted dressing code, but I also felt embraced by being part of a subculture in a way I new I would never feel as have I tried to fit the status quo mould in which I never would be able to anyway.

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I can say now that months shy of being 30 years old, I’m comfortable in my own skin. I will never be tall or extremely slender, but I’m finally starting to be at peace with that.

For years I always wanted to put myself out there and share with the world what I love to do most, which is express my creativity through clothing and styling them. Over 10 years ago I used to be part of the Flickr community that uploaded their daily outfits in the platform, then tried the infamous lookbook.nu, but felt extremely self-conscious and uncomfortable there.

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2018 is the year that I have decided to take a risk and give myself the chance to do whatever I want to do! Being a crazy perfectionist, I am my biggest critic, but the fear of failure is the only thing that keeps me from taking the plunge… I hope to conquer that fear!

The fact that I don’t look like what social conformity expects you to look like makes me insecure at times, but I think that letting go of control is something that I need to do in order to grow and be a better person. I am always too afraid of people judging or not liking me, but it’s time to understand that it is impossible to please everyone all the time. I can’t change someone’s perception of me, but I can change how I am affected by it.

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I think that social media should be more inclusive without always having the necessity to fit people in a box (petite, plus size, POC, LGBTQ, etc). Although it is useful to cater to a certain audience, keeping yourself broad is also important. Personally speaking, I don’t follow a content creator judging by the way they are physically, but what entices me is being in awe of the content they produce and how it can inspire me.

I hope that you find some sort of inspiration in this little space of mine. In the meantime, what are your thoughts on conformity in social media?

Camila

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Blazer: Vintage | Turtleneck: Vintage | Trousers: Asos (Similar) | Bag: Céline (Similar) | Shoes: & Other Stories